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Dear Sharon,
My heart really goes out to you. I had a father who was a real beer drinker and my mom was a tea totler.. We all begged him for years to quit drinking beer to no avail. Then one day his health was affected and he stopped cold turkey. He wouldn't do it for his family, but he did it for himself. I really think that the alcohol desensitized him so much he had no idea how much he was hurting us. He did love us and we loved him dearly, but not his drinking.
The first suggestion I would like to give you is to gather with your two teenagers daily, join hands and pray to God that your husband's problems will be revealed to himself. He is the last one to see it and the last one to admit it. There is power in prayer and just praying together will be a strong force to strengthen your family. Please try this. It makes them feel so much better to know they are loved that much. That way they will learn the power of the Spirit.
You are going to have to ask God to see you through this one day at a time, one hour at a time and some days one minute at a time. You need to claim His promises and trust Him to give you the guidance you need. Stay in the Psalms and cry your prayers to the Lord. I know you want to save your marriage but it will take time. You are going to have to change your thought process and it will be costly. You see as the mom, you are the one that has the most power to keep your family together. You are going to have to be the one to die to self in order to give life to your family (Romans 12:1)
I know it doesn't seem fair that you have to be the one to sacrifice when your husband is the one causing the problem. You see you have the advantage because in order to get through the day you are going to have to be in God's Word first thing to put your armor on. If you are in the Word of God, you will generally be in the will of God. Your husband does not have that blessing. He is living in total disobedience and doesn't have a clue. He is existing in the flesh but not the Spirit and the Spirit cannot get to him because he numbs himself with alcohol. That is why you have got to pray that God will somehow make his beer seem repulsive in his mouth and he will want to rid himself of it. With God all things are possible. I am not saying you will get the results you want but You will receive the peace of God because you have done everything possible to save your marriage.
You have done everything you know how to do, now let God have a turn. Turn your husband completely over to Him and let God have His way. You cannot beat a dead horse, it isn't going anywhere.
Also consider joining a support group with the kids and that way you will be better prepared on how to handle the situation. There are support groups in every town so if you do not want to go where you are known, travel to another city. You need help! Forget your pride and do what is best for your family. It will be revealed sooner or later and God will not be mocked. Your husband's sin will be found out one way or another. Please remember that alcoholism is an illness and has to be treated as one. Try to meet your husband where he is at, but don't let him bring you and your family down. You have to get help so you can keep your family together. Your family will definitely be in my prayers.
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Tuesday, July 22, 2008
How Should I Handle An Abusive Ex-Boyfriend?
Dear Heidi,
I know the issues you are dealing with now are very stressful, but staying in such an abusive realtionship would not be worth the price. There are actions you can take to protect yourself and your property.
For starters get a good Christian attorney. If you cannot afford an attorney you can call a Women's shelter in your local area that deals with abuse and they might be able to give you some advice. For now I would change the locks on the doors and try not to venture out by yourself for now. If your parents live near, you might want to stay with them until he quits stalking you. Whatever you do, stay clear of him and do not go back to him just because of harassment.
I do not know how your relationship is with the Lord. If you are born again God is your protector. If you are not born again, you need to seek salvation. Do not do this out of fear, but you need the Lord in your life no matter what and He might have brought you to this place so you would go to Him. Remember that greater is He that is in us than hethat is in the world.
I know the issues you are dealing with now are very stressful, but staying in such an abusive realtionship would not be worth the price. There are actions you can take to protect yourself and your property.
For starters get a good Christian attorney. If you cannot afford an attorney you can call a Women's shelter in your local area that deals with abuse and they might be able to give you some advice. For now I would change the locks on the doors and try not to venture out by yourself for now. If your parents live near, you might want to stay with them until he quits stalking you. Whatever you do, stay clear of him and do not go back to him just because of harassment.
I do not know how your relationship is with the Lord. If you are born again God is your protector. If you are not born again, you need to seek salvation. Do not do this out of fear, but you need the Lord in your life no matter what and He might have brought you to this place so you would go to Him. Remember that greater is He that is in us than hethat is in the world.
Monday, March 24, 2008
What Should I Do As A New Christian Mom?
Dear Michelle,
Welcome to the family of God.
Your life will never be the same and neither will the lives of your family. The first and most important advice I can give you is to be dedicated to spending time in the Word of God daily. If you are not in the Wordof God, you are generally not int he Will of God.
Satan will do everything in his power to keep you too busy to be in God's Word and to stress you out so you will not be the witness that God wants you to be.
Busy means:
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Also remember that you will slip up from time to time. God knows that and will extend you the grace you need when you repent and ask forgiveness.
Obedience is also very important whether we feel like it or not. Emotions can get in the way andreally mess up our choices. Go to God first and not to self. He usually knows what is best forus even though we do not undertand His ways of doing things.
As far as your children go. Let them see you read the Bible. Let them see you turn to God when trials enter you life and not turn to alcohol or drugs. You are to get your strength from God now and they need to see that. Mean what you say and say what you mean. If you cannot walk the walk and talk the talk, it is best to say nothing.
I will be praying for you and your family. May God not be able to bestow many blessings on you and your family now that you are His.
In Him,
Sandy Denton
Welcome to the family of God.
Your life will never be the same and neither will the lives of your family. The first and most important advice I can give you is to be dedicated to spending time in the Word of God daily. If you are not in the Wordof God, you are generally not int he Will of God.
Satan will do everything in his power to keep you too busy to be in God's Word and to stress you out so you will not be the witness that God wants you to be.
Busy means:
B being
U under
S Satan's
Y Yoke
Also remember that you will slip up from time to time. God knows that and will extend you the grace you need when you repent and ask forgiveness.
Obedience is also very important whether we feel like it or not. Emotions can get in the way andreally mess up our choices. Go to God first and not to self. He usually knows what is best forus even though we do not undertand His ways of doing things.
As far as your children go. Let them see you read the Bible. Let them see you turn to God when trials enter you life and not turn to alcohol or drugs. You are to get your strength from God now and they need to see that. Mean what you say and say what you mean. If you cannot walk the walk and talk the talk, it is best to say nothing.
I will be praying for you and your family. May God not be able to bestow many blessings on you and your family now that you are His.
In Him,
Sandy Denton
Wednesday, August 29, 2007
Confused
Stealing might be acceptable in your neighborhood but dear one it is not in the eyes of God.
It sounds like you are a new Christian and do not have the solid foundation to help you make the right choices. First of all you do not know the truth that will set you free so you need to find out what the Bible says about stealing. Get a concordance and look of this subject.
Secondly, if this young man is impressed by stealing than you certainly do not want to pursuethis relationship.
You might need to counsel with your pastor to make sure that you are truly born again and you need to ask God into your heart and repent of your sins.
Stealing will have to become a thing of the past and not allowed in your life ever again. It is time to make right choices that will bring you close to God and not separate you from Him. No wonder you are confused.
You will be in my prayers and if you have to follow the examples of others, for the example of our Lord.
God Bless
It sounds like you are a new Christian and do not have the solid foundation to help you make the right choices. First of all you do not know the truth that will set you free so you need to find out what the Bible says about stealing. Get a concordance and look of this subject.
Secondly, if this young man is impressed by stealing than you certainly do not want to pursuethis relationship.
You might need to counsel with your pastor to make sure that you are truly born again and you need to ask God into your heart and repent of your sins.
Stealing will have to become a thing of the past and not allowed in your life ever again. It is time to make right choices that will bring you close to God and not separate you from Him. No wonder you are confused.
You will be in my prayers and if you have to follow the examples of others, for the example of our Lord.
God Bless
Thursday, July 26, 2007
Unappreciated
Please try not to get your self-idenity and worth from this young man who is letting you down. Iknow it is so easy to put all our eggs in one basket and expect this person to be the answer to all ourneeds but it just doesn't work thatway even in a marriage.
You have got to be the person God created you to be and not dependon a relationship to feel all the voids. I am sure if you would take a list of your strengths youwould see that you do pretty goodon your own. How many years did you live without this person and still had a life for yourself.
Evidently this is not the person God has chosen to be your mate so keep looking even though it is causing great heartache and depression.
I look back on some of the relationships and actually cringe when I think I could have ended up with them as my mate.
If he doesn't bring the best of you before marraige, it cerainly won't happen afterwards.
Move on to greener pastures. Be yourself and let the Lord feel your needs. He does a much better job of it because He knows what you need before you need it.
You have got to be the person God created you to be and not dependon a relationship to feel all the voids. I am sure if you would take a list of your strengths youwould see that you do pretty goodon your own. How many years did you live without this person and still had a life for yourself.
Evidently this is not the person God has chosen to be your mate so keep looking even though it is causing great heartache and depression.
I look back on some of the relationships and actually cringe when I think I could have ended up with them as my mate.
If he doesn't bring the best of you before marraige, it cerainly won't happen afterwards.
Move on to greener pastures. Be yourself and let the Lord feel your needs. He does a much better job of it because He knows what you need before you need it.
Wednesday, May 23, 2007
Need Help With A Friend
Praise the Lord that you (one so young” knows and lives Ephesians 4:14.
“We should no longer be children, tossed to and fro and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the trickery of men, in the cunning craftiness of deceitful plotting.”
You are to be commended. You are at an advantage because you know the truth and thetruth has set you free. Unfortunately, your friend does not know the real truth. Youknow the expression, “you are what you are taught to be” and that is what is happeningto your friend. Her mother is as lost and confused as she is. They are taught Michael thearchangel is no other than the only-begotten Son of God, that Jesus Christ is not onewith the Father and that the Holy Spirit is an active force, not a person of the trinity.They have so many confusing thoughts and are fed lies from the enemy, especiallylies about hell and eternity. That alone is enough to scare one to death.
You are treading on delicate ground and must definitely be covered by the armor ofGod. You have got to handle this situation with gentleness, kindness and love. Youwill need a lot of patience because they believe this to be the truth. You have pretty much said all that you can and after you give them the 14 page letter, “letgo and let God.” When you hand her the letter, do it in love. Let theHoly Spirit shine through because He speaks louder than words. I will be prayingfor you, along with the other mentors, that the truth of God will be seen by themboth before it is too late and they will believe in the One True God.
In Him,
Sandy Denton
“We should no longer be children, tossed to and fro and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the trickery of men, in the cunning craftiness of deceitful plotting.”
You are to be commended. You are at an advantage because you know the truth and thetruth has set you free. Unfortunately, your friend does not know the real truth. Youknow the expression, “you are what you are taught to be” and that is what is happeningto your friend. Her mother is as lost and confused as she is. They are taught Michael thearchangel is no other than the only-begotten Son of God, that Jesus Christ is not onewith the Father and that the Holy Spirit is an active force, not a person of the trinity.They have so many confusing thoughts and are fed lies from the enemy, especiallylies about hell and eternity. That alone is enough to scare one to death.
You are treading on delicate ground and must definitely be covered by the armor ofGod. You have got to handle this situation with gentleness, kindness and love. Youwill need a lot of patience because they believe this to be the truth. You have pretty much said all that you can and after you give them the 14 page letter, “letgo and let God.” When you hand her the letter, do it in love. Let theHoly Spirit shine through because He speaks louder than words. I will be prayingfor you, along with the other mentors, that the truth of God will be seen by themboth before it is too late and they will believe in the One True God.
In Him,
Sandy Denton
Saturday, May 19, 2007
What Should I Do?
For one so young, it appears that you have your act together and are travelingdown the right path and you are to be commended.
This young girl who has started the rumors definitely has some issues. What isso sad is she probably doesn’t have a clue of the repercussions her behavior willbring to herself and others.
Gossip wounds people. Gossips love to take their pieces of information “their tasty trifles” (Proverbs 26:20-22) and pass them along. They have so little to occupy their minds that they feed on another’s personal life. Often their motive is attention, or maybe they wish to put someone down to raise themselves up. Whatever the reason , it shouldnot happen especially in the church. That is not only a slap in your face, but God’s face as well. God, however is a good notekeeper and will deal in His own way with thisyoung girl.
You are right in wanting to protect your character. You will not only be protecting your character but that of the Spirit that dwells within you. You must be prayed up and have all your armor on (Ephesains 6). You must take someone with you. Maybe the youthpastor or a respected college student in the church with you. That way the truth willb e spoken and the situation handled with dignity.
Prepare your words and may they be “soft to the touch” and not cut into the heart.This will reflect not only your character but the Christlikeness in you as well.
Do not let this incident change your walk with the Lord. Their will always begossips around the corner. Just remember, if you have nothing to hide from God,you have nothing to worry about. Greater is He that is in you than he that is inthe world.
I will be praying for you.
In Him,
Sandy
This young girl who has started the rumors definitely has some issues. What isso sad is she probably doesn’t have a clue of the repercussions her behavior willbring to herself and others.
Gossip wounds people. Gossips love to take their pieces of information “their tasty trifles” (Proverbs 26:20-22) and pass them along. They have so little to occupy their minds that they feed on another’s personal life. Often their motive is attention, or maybe they wish to put someone down to raise themselves up. Whatever the reason , it shouldnot happen especially in the church. That is not only a slap in your face, but God’s face as well. God, however is a good notekeeper and will deal in His own way with thisyoung girl.
You are right in wanting to protect your character. You will not only be protecting your character but that of the Spirit that dwells within you. You must be prayed up and have all your armor on (Ephesains 6). You must take someone with you. Maybe the youthpastor or a respected college student in the church with you. That way the truth willb e spoken and the situation handled with dignity.
Prepare your words and may they be “soft to the touch” and not cut into the heart.This will reflect not only your character but the Christlikeness in you as well.
Do not let this incident change your walk with the Lord. Their will always begossips around the corner. Just remember, if you have nothing to hide from God,you have nothing to worry about. Greater is He that is in you than he that is inthe world.
I will be praying for you.
In Him,
Sandy
Thursday, May 10, 2007
Soulmate
I know you are looking and anxiously awaiting the one that Godhas chosen for you. There are things in life that take time andwaiting for Mr. Right is one of them. If you rush God, then chances are you will not get paired up with the right man He has chosen for you.
Life is such a slow process sometimes, but God's way is thebest way. If you have been a christian for any period of timeyou know that God works on His on timetable. I will be praying for you that God will give you the discernment and patienceto wait for the right man and that He will also give you theknowledge and wisdom to know when you meet him. It will be well worth the wait.
Take one day at a time and do your best not to get ahead of theLord. Get your focus on God and serve Him daily and when you least expect it Mr. Right will walk into your life.
In Him,
Sandy Denton
Life is such a slow process sometimes, but God's way is thebest way. If you have been a christian for any period of timeyou know that God works on His on timetable. I will be praying for you that God will give you the discernment and patienceto wait for the right man and that He will also give you theknowledge and wisdom to know when you meet him. It will be well worth the wait.
Take one day at a time and do your best not to get ahead of theLord. Get your focus on God and serve Him daily and when you least expect it Mr. Right will walk into your life.
In Him,
Sandy Denton
Wednesday, April 18, 2007
Going through a divorce and struggling with finances
Dear One,
I want you to take a few deep breaths and bow your head and go before the Throne of Grace. Ask your Heavenly Father to show His presence and give you the grace and mercy that you need to get through this crisis. The Lord certainly already knows,but He tells us to ask, seek and knock. Not only do you ask Him for His mercy but to shelter you in the cleft of the rock (like He did Moses) until the storm passes by. Do not for one minute think that God does not know or care what He happening toyou. If you are truly a child of God, He has your name engraved on the palm of His hands and He will never let you go.
Get into the Word and claim the promises that are yours as His child. Whether you understand or not, it is an act of your will that will overcome the enemy who is attacking you in your time of need. He is good at it and will do anything to bring defeat into your life. Stand strong and remember, stronger is He that is in you than he that is in the world. Get into Ephesians 6 and put your armor on. You are in a full fledge war and if you do your part, God will do His, but if you give into fear or self-pity, the enemy will will the battle – NOT THE WAR BECAUSE YOU MUST NOT GIVE UP. TRUST AND OBEY BECAUSE THERE IS NO OTHER WAY.
Your husband will pay for his sin in the end. Right now it looks like he is winning, but it is the ways of the world and that will be his only gratification in the end.
God will provide for you. It may not be in the way you are accustomed to, butHe will provide for you. Stay in the word and get with Christians to hold you up until this battle is won.
I am so sorry that you have to go through this at this season in our life but it is not in vain. You are paying the price of someone’s else’s wrong choices. You can do it because there is no other way out. God will see you through, but you must do it His way whether you understand or not.
In the end, God will unfold His blessings on you because you did it His way and you trusted Him in the heat of the furnace.
You will be in my prayers.
I want you to take a few deep breaths and bow your head and go before the Throne of Grace. Ask your Heavenly Father to show His presence and give you the grace and mercy that you need to get through this crisis. The Lord certainly already knows,but He tells us to ask, seek and knock. Not only do you ask Him for His mercy but to shelter you in the cleft of the rock (like He did Moses) until the storm passes by. Do not for one minute think that God does not know or care what He happening toyou. If you are truly a child of God, He has your name engraved on the palm of His hands and He will never let you go.
Get into the Word and claim the promises that are yours as His child. Whether you understand or not, it is an act of your will that will overcome the enemy who is attacking you in your time of need. He is good at it and will do anything to bring defeat into your life. Stand strong and remember, stronger is He that is in you than he that is in the world. Get into Ephesians 6 and put your armor on. You are in a full fledge war and if you do your part, God will do His, but if you give into fear or self-pity, the enemy will will the battle – NOT THE WAR BECAUSE YOU MUST NOT GIVE UP. TRUST AND OBEY BECAUSE THERE IS NO OTHER WAY.
Your husband will pay for his sin in the end. Right now it looks like he is winning, but it is the ways of the world and that will be his only gratification in the end.
God will provide for you. It may not be in the way you are accustomed to, butHe will provide for you. Stay in the word and get with Christians to hold you up until this battle is won.
I am so sorry that you have to go through this at this season in our life but it is not in vain. You are paying the price of someone’s else’s wrong choices. You can do it because there is no other way out. God will see you through, but you must do it His way whether you understand or not.
In the end, God will unfold His blessings on you because you did it His way and you trusted Him in the heat of the furnace.
You will be in my prayers.
Thursday, March 29, 2007
Update: I Have a Major Question
THAT IS FANTASTIC NEWS! It made my heart sing, so I can just imagine howthe Lord felt when you made the RIGHT choice. I am by no means making lightof the hurt you had to go through when your broke up with your boyfriend. Twoyears is a long time. Hopefully, he will look back on your decision and understandthat you did make the right choice, although that might take some time. But Iknow one thing he will have a high respect for you even though he may not show it now.
I know one thing, you made satan very upset. There are not two many youngladies (Christians included) who would have succumbed to the temptation. I know Godis going to honor your obedience, but you must be prepared because it mighthappen again. Satan steal prowls around seeking to destroy God’s children.
Remember stonger is He that is in you, than he that is in the world.When you do date again, just tell the young man from the beginning whereyou stand.If he makes advances anyway, show him the door as well.Well, done young lady! I am sure you brought a big smile to our Lord’s face.
Sandy Denton
I know one thing, you made satan very upset. There are not two many youngladies (Christians included) who would have succumbed to the temptation. I know Godis going to honor your obedience, but you must be prepared because it mighthappen again. Satan steal prowls around seeking to destroy God’s children.
Remember stonger is He that is in you, than he that is in the world.When you do date again, just tell the young man from the beginning whereyou stand.If he makes advances anyway, show him the door as well.Well, done young lady! I am sure you brought a big smile to our Lord’s face.
Sandy Denton
Struggling
Dear Struggling One,
You do indeed have a full platter. The way to approach it is one bite at a time and taking every morsel to the throne of God and ask Him for discernment, wisdom and knowledge.
I believe every 15 year old has a self-esteem problem, especially in this materialistic world and having to keep up with the fashion and body figures of today. Take the time not only to pray for your daughter but do it out loud with her. Let her know in your prayers that she is special to you and God and in the long run that is all that matters. It may seem awkward at first but believe me it will be music to her ears and it certainly will make the enemy mad as a hornet.
Your husband admitting to you that he has this problem is a silent call for help. He probably realizes this is not the lifestyle for him and the guilt is probably eating him alive. Again in you can pray out loud with him, do it. If not, get on your knees and bind the enemy in Jesus' name and if you can ask your husband to see a counselor. He is seeking help. Let him know you want to help him.
I will be praying for you and your family.
In Him,
Sandy Denton
You do indeed have a full platter. The way to approach it is one bite at a time and taking every morsel to the throne of God and ask Him for discernment, wisdom and knowledge.
I believe every 15 year old has a self-esteem problem, especially in this materialistic world and having to keep up with the fashion and body figures of today. Take the time not only to pray for your daughter but do it out loud with her. Let her know in your prayers that she is special to you and God and in the long run that is all that matters. It may seem awkward at first but believe me it will be music to her ears and it certainly will make the enemy mad as a hornet.
Your husband admitting to you that he has this problem is a silent call for help. He probably realizes this is not the lifestyle for him and the guilt is probably eating him alive. Again in you can pray out loud with him, do it. If not, get on your knees and bind the enemy in Jesus' name and if you can ask your husband to see a counselor. He is seeking help. Let him know you want to help him.
I will be praying for you and your family.
In Him,
Sandy Denton
Monday, March 26, 2007
Me and My Family
Dear Big Sis,
Do not get discouraged. You can and will make a difference if you “keep on keeping on”. Your sisters may be too young to understand now, but if you keep calling, writing,sending them little tokens, and showing that you care, they will want to be apart of yourlife also.
Little things mean a lot and families mean a lot to God as well. Relationships can benutured and grow into a tight bond if enough attention and love is given to that relationship.
Hopefully, you will be able to see them in person from time to time, but if not sendpictures of yourself. Since they are younger than you are the responsibility falls onyour young shoulders. You are making God smile as He sees you care so much foryour sisters and He will bless your efforts (in His time and when your sisters areolder).
I will be praying that God will open doors and give you the insight to do what itis you need to do. Your heart is in the right place.
In Him,
Sandy
Do not get discouraged. You can and will make a difference if you “keep on keeping on”. Your sisters may be too young to understand now, but if you keep calling, writing,sending them little tokens, and showing that you care, they will want to be apart of yourlife also.
Little things mean a lot and families mean a lot to God as well. Relationships can benutured and grow into a tight bond if enough attention and love is given to that relationship.
Hopefully, you will be able to see them in person from time to time, but if not sendpictures of yourself. Since they are younger than you are the responsibility falls onyour young shoulders. You are making God smile as He sees you care so much foryour sisters and He will bless your efforts (in His time and when your sisters areolder).
I will be praying that God will open doors and give you the insight to do what itis you need to do. Your heart is in the right place.
In Him,
Sandy
I have a major question
Dear Confused,
WAIT! God has given you a precious gift of purity and virginity. He gave you that gift to be used one time and for a very special purpose. The one time it is to be givenis on your wedding night. It is a wedding present that God intended for you to given to your future husband (one that he will value and cherish).
I know that free sex is the “in thing”, but God never intended for it to be so. The world has cheapened a very precious thing between a husband and wife.
The choices you make now will determine your future. We all make good choices andreap the benefits. We also make bad choices and reap the consequences. You will always be forgiven if you repent, but God will not remove the consequences of disobedience. Please listen to a mother of two daughters. I understand your confusion, but you must not give into this temptation.
I would like for you to pray and ask God to enlighten you as you read the following verses:
I Thess. 4:3-7
I Cor. 6:15-20
II Tim.2:22
If you are saved, you will want to please God more than man. The price iscostly, but one that is worth every penny. You may not realize that now, butGod’s way is the only way. Fornication is a sin and once you have sex, satanwill use that at his advantage to make you feel “Well, since I did it in the past,I have already sinned, so what’s the use.” Don’t even go there and give satanthat chance.
Sex is an act that only takes minutes but can ruin the rest of your life. Don’tcheapen that special gift God has given you. Don’t go with the crowd onthis one. You asked for help, so I know this is important to you.
Your boyfriend will probably not understand and he may even break up with you. If this is what happens, that is God’s way of telling you this young man is not the one Hewants for you. Explain to him, that safety comes in numbers and from now on you are not going to put you or him in that vulnerable situation.
I will be praying that the Lord will put a hedge of protection around you and keep youboth from satan’s snare. And remember the friends that encourage you to have sex willnot be around to pick up the pieces. You will be the one that has to carry the load and sowill your parents. Don’t do that to yourself or your family. It just isn’t worth it.
In Him,
Sandy Denton
WAIT! God has given you a precious gift of purity and virginity. He gave you that gift to be used one time and for a very special purpose. The one time it is to be givenis on your wedding night. It is a wedding present that God intended for you to given to your future husband (one that he will value and cherish).
I know that free sex is the “in thing”, but God never intended for it to be so. The world has cheapened a very precious thing between a husband and wife.
The choices you make now will determine your future. We all make good choices andreap the benefits. We also make bad choices and reap the consequences. You will always be forgiven if you repent, but God will not remove the consequences of disobedience. Please listen to a mother of two daughters. I understand your confusion, but you must not give into this temptation.
I would like for you to pray and ask God to enlighten you as you read the following verses:
I Thess. 4:3-7
I Cor. 6:15-20
II Tim.2:22
If you are saved, you will want to please God more than man. The price iscostly, but one that is worth every penny. You may not realize that now, butGod’s way is the only way. Fornication is a sin and once you have sex, satanwill use that at his advantage to make you feel “Well, since I did it in the past,I have already sinned, so what’s the use.” Don’t even go there and give satanthat chance.
Sex is an act that only takes minutes but can ruin the rest of your life. Don’tcheapen that special gift God has given you. Don’t go with the crowd onthis one. You asked for help, so I know this is important to you.
Your boyfriend will probably not understand and he may even break up with you. If this is what happens, that is God’s way of telling you this young man is not the one Hewants for you. Explain to him, that safety comes in numbers and from now on you are not going to put you or him in that vulnerable situation.
I will be praying that the Lord will put a hedge of protection around you and keep youboth from satan’s snare. And remember the friends that encourage you to have sex willnot be around to pick up the pieces. You will be the one that has to carry the load and sowill your parents. Don’t do that to yourself or your family. It just isn’t worth it.
In Him,
Sandy Denton
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