A Suffering Adult Child

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Dear Lynn,

As a mother, my hearts aches with you. This problem with your daughter is one where you have to fall before Jesus and pray for His intervention. You may not be able to help her circumstances, but, as a mother you must be praying constantly! Our children become a ministry the moment they are born, and it carries over into their adult lives. As mothers, we want to spare them the hurts of life, but we both know we can only protect them for so long. I do not know where you are with your walk with God, but I do know God can see your mother's heart if you are His. If your daughter sees your faith, it might make her want her own if she sees it is enough for you. You cannot make her ask Jesus back into her life, but you can make her want what you have. I know you want what is best for your daughter and grandchildren but there is only so much you can do. If she keeps making the wrong choices, then God cannot bless her disobedience, but He will and can meet her where she is at. He is there waiting, but He will not interfere until your daughter repents and asks Him to. If this man is good to her and she loves him, they need to marry in order for God to bless their relationship. You both need to pray for this man to get a job where they can hopefully move closer to town where your daughter can have some companionship. Raising 3 little ones without an outlet would be hard on anyone (even Christians who serve their Lord faithfully). You might even speak to this man about how lonely your daughter is if you feel comfortable doing that. This is where we need to show her how big God is! Some people can keep their small God in a thimble, but if they know Him as they should, they would soon see He takes up the whole universe. If you have an extra Bible, give it to your daughter and tell her to reads Psalms daily. The scripture will give her hope! Also, if there is a church in her town, call them and ask them to visit her!. Many churches would be happy to do that! You can also buy her a little surprise just to let her know you are thinking of her. If you live far away, send her cards! Sometimes little things mean alot. Lynn, may God be with you while you travel this road with your daughter! Try not to get tunnel vision. In Acts 17:26, it tells us that God determines our boundaries! Maybe He has, but your daughter in this isolated place to bring her closer to Him.

God Bless,
Sandy